It’s time to live your best life and if you are anything like me there are some things that you need to improve on so that you can stay winning. Here are the first five that come to mind that I know many of my girls need to improve on.
1. Ask for what you are worth or at the very least what you want. So many times I speak to a homegirl who is kicking herself saying “damn I could have gotten more for the gig” or I accepted the job at the salary/rate they offered. Why is it so hard for women especially women who have been marginalized for so long to take a deep breath and ask for what they are due? Stop selling yourself short and ask believing you deserve it and will get it.
2. Ask for help. Stop burning yourself out when there are friends, family, a spouse nearby that would help you if you let them. Stop always trying to figure shit out on your own and lean on someone else when you need to. It’s ok to need help and we need to start asking for more help before we work ourselves to death and become helpless.
3. Invest in more experiences. Life is short, we need to travel more, talk to strangers, put our phones down and explore. There is this big ass world out there and many of us don’t get beyond our own backyard. Go on a road trip, buy an airplane ticket, go camping, skiing, explore a new neighborhood and don’t post about it while doing it. Just take tons of pictures and invite some friends over and share the moments over food and drinks.
4. Toot your own damn horn. How many times have I not shared a project, blog post, award or design because I didn’t want to be the center of attention or seem to be bragging? I’ve noticed that many of my friends are slow to share accomplishments or skills they have. So many of us peruse the gram watching other folks win because we won’t self-promote. Closed mouths don’t get fed. Speak up. Show out! While we are sharing your girl was recently announced as one of the Voices of the Year and will be at BlogHer next month accepting my award. Holla!
5. No is a complete sentence and you need to say it more. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, your answer should probably be no. I am not cosigning you talking yourself out of opportunities, new experiences or getting shit done that needs to be done, but if you don’t want to go out, babysit, do a favor or do something that makes you feel uncomfortable say NO and move on. I find saying No hard as hell but it takes practice.
What are some other things you think you or our sister circle need to get better at?