The selfie gets a bad rap, most people equate it to borderline narcism when we see too many. Many people myself formerly included try not to post too many because we don’t want to be “that chick” or “that guy.” However that begs the questions, what’s too many? and why do I give any damns what someone else might think?
I realize that I actually “see” myself when I take a selfie. I generally take a shot when I am feeling my hair, my look, or the sun is hitting me just right. In that moment I am empowered to take notice of my beauty, something at times I can be quite passive about. A selfie a day can work the same as making daily affirmations when you look in the mirror. I can’t be the only one that sometimes needs a reminder of how beautiful I am flaws and all and the best reminder is when I look at myself and am like “Bish you betta work !”
For many who have struggled with self confidence issues taking regular selfies could be huge. The very art of taking a selfie is never a one shot deal, we keep at it until we get a shot that shows what we deem to be beautiful about ourself. Whether we are feeling our hair, makeup, profile or smile we are honing in on our beauty and we feel so good about what we see that we want to share it. That shit is kind of powerful. So I started really looking at folks selfies differently. Instead of saying here she goes again I try to see what it is that she/he sees. I pretty much always “like” it because what the hell is the harm in affirming a friend? Do you think selfies can be a part of a self care practice?