I guess there is some truth to the saying older and wiser because as I started to approach 40 I started to invest less time in caring about what folks think or what the appropriate response should be. I no longer tried to always be PC to spare folks feelings, I wear and do some shit that is simply not age appropriate if it makes me happy, I’m cool with not being the most popular, I’m ok if you block me with no premise cuz I probably needed the break to. I let my spirit filled child dance out loud, finish out the tantrum and sometimes talk a little to loud, fidget a bit too much while at church and give no damns about the eye rolls or how you handled it when you had kids.
With age comes a bit of liberation, you’ve seen some things, you’ve made it through some things so perspective starts to shift a bit. All of your problems and insecurities don’t disappear, age just helps to demagnify them and it feels good. My lil sis and big sis (in my head) had the best twitter exchange a few nights ago that solidified this for me
Quinta B, a hilarious actor and content creator who is in her twenties tweeted: “As I get closer to 30, I can feel myself truly starting not to care what anyone thinks anymore…and it is good.”
Being Mary Jane Actress, Gabrielle Union retweets and responds “Wait till your 40s… you’ll give “fucks” as secret Santa gifts” to my rousing applause.
So yeahI’m feeling myself most days and working to age gracefully and give a few less damns, its the NoireCare way. Who’s with me?